Meggin asked:
I got into a fight with a guy friend of mine a little while ago. We live far away and we send long emails back and forth a lot, and I had a flight voucher so I suggested maybe going to see him with the flight discount. He replied like, ‘About another visit… I don’t think its the best idea right now. the last visit is still fresh in our mind and I think it’d be awkward. Sorry’
I got into a fight with a guy friend of mine a little while ago. We live far away and we send long emails back and forth a lot, and I had a flight voucher so I suggested maybe going to see him with the flight discount. He replied like, ‘About another visit… I don’t think its the best idea right now. the last visit is still fresh in our mind and I think it’d be awkward. Sorry’
I had gone to see him last summer and things were fun but didn’t end well. we decided not to be ‘together’ b/c of the distance. The thing is I thought we put all that behind us b/c we still stayed so close. I took that as ‘I never want to see you again’ and I sent a mail back saying ‘if you don’t want to see me again fine but this friendship is over’
he replied like ‘You’re being paranoid! I never said I never wanted to see you again- tell me where I wrote that?!?’
No effence, but I think your wrong.
Why did you say that?
You could’ve said, when can I meet you? on the email.
And why can’t you come?
I think he meant right now- this summer a visit probably wasn’t best.. and he’d like to see you again just not this summer or asap. Don’t beat yourself up, anybody would have been hurt by that reaction. Especially girls. I probably would have said the same thing.
means his unsure that will happen again and nerves he don’t want to mess things up again.
I think you might be wrong too. He never said he didn’t want to see you again at all. Having to let you down must have been tough for him, but she was brave enough to do that. How would you have felt if he said yes, and it all turned out to be awkward again? I’m sure all he wants is for you both to have a great time. He only said THIS summer, not anytime else. I understand you miss him though, it’s hard when friends move away. But the main thing is you remain close still. Don’t lose a good friend over a misunderstanding.
i think you’re over reacting a bit to what he wrote. lighten up!!!! don’t allow this to ruin your relationship with such a good friend. friendships are hard to come by, and they don’t come that often. call a trues and get your friendship BACK ON TRACK!
No, I would have taken it the way he said it– he just thinks that you visiting right now might be awkward.
There’s a big difference between not wanting to be together and never wanting to see somebody again. Just give him a little time and space and you can be friends again.
You were definitly wrong with ur reaction.He was just not ready for it yet!
I think you’re both wrong. He could have explained it further so you didn’t take it the wrong way.. and you overreacted to what he said because you were hurt.
Boys go on and on so the best trick is to apologize, then say we should Still be friends.
P.S. Why don’t one of you guys move to one another so you guys can be in the same place?